I find humans are naturally resistant to change, regardless if it’s for the better. Lately I’ve begun to realize that if I want my life to move forwards I have to prioritize, and stop putting my own wants and needs last. I need to chuck old self-limiting habits to make room for new helpful ones.
There’s always room for improvement & these are some habits I’d like to kick:
Unhelpful Habits- A hit list
Saying ‘Yes’ when you’d rather say ‘No‘ – Basically I need to learn to say ‘No’ without remorse or a need to explain myself. If you don’t really want to do it save your own and everyone else’s time with a positive ‘No, Thank you.’
Dithering and deferring decisions – Don’t second guess yourself, you were probably right in the first place. Screw ‘what ifs?’ Deep down you KNOW. Go with your gut. Cut your losses and move on.
Pointless Procrastinating – related to dithering. Stop putting off the things you know are important or will make the biggest change. Fear is the little death, and procrastination my dear is the thief of time.
Online Vices – I feel like I’ve lost a lifetime reading limitless blogs, and constantly scrolling images on instagram while planning what my next will be. ‘Research’ and ‘Inspiration’ has become a displacement activity. I need to get disciplined and move on.
Bogged down by Blogging – or ‘Blogging for the wrong reasons’. I need to constantly remind myself I’m not publishing for approval, and that I’m allowed to post whatever I want, with no ‘should’s or schedules. Blogging is either a useful exploratory tool, or it’s not worth doing. Keep it real.
Instant Gratification/ Retail Therapy – It’s a trap! You might momentarily feel better but be careful of trying to fill that hole with junk. You only need so much lipstick, and hell you can’t wear it all at once. I’m being facetious but next time you feel like frittering away a tenner put it in the pot for something you really want instead. This one’s gonna be tough.
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I intend to break my ‘bad habits’ by creating new helpful ones in their place and I’ll follow-up with my ‘helpful habits’ list soon. In the meantime, perhaps you can recognise some of these unhelpful habits among your own? What negative habit do you have that you’d really like to break? Perhaps you’ve successfully kicked your habit already? I’d love to hear about it.